Sorry NM for not being clear. Yes, I want to know what he has on offer as a father in terms of parenting (and finances for that matter).
If he has no answer to my question or ignores it, then it might show him up (to himself) and make him start to think more responsibly about what he is plans are. And at least I will have the satisfaction of putting my 'demands' out there too. Remember, my WH has been unilateral. He has controlled everyting. Now he wants control over these last two things (seeing her/naming her). Fine, but where is the give and take?
Still haven't sent the email...thanks for your help!
(G, even if he ignores the question or comes back with something sarcastic, I don't care too much. it's a matter of principle. he is 'asserting his wishes', can't I assert what I think are quite normal expectations of the father?)
