Thanks for your thoughts, TH.

I would feel better about the D is we had both tried to save it. As is stands right now, W is just discarding 19 years with barely a thought. I find that hard to accept. Hard to feel good about trying when it is a one sided attempt.

H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012