Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Thank you CityGirl. It's great support to have so many helping along this journey.

My IC tells me to do something very similar to what you suggest. My IC tells me to allow myself one hour each day to think about this and then move on and think about something else. That helps.

I think you're right about my W. I think she might feel like she wants me to reach out to her at times. My DB coach said that because I used to take care of most things in the M, my W might still be looking for me to take care of things. She might be looking for me to continue to take the leadership role. My DB coach suggested that I continue this role as it shows strength to my W. I've thought a lot about that one. In a way, yes, I can understand that logic. On the other hand I think my W needs to feel like she can no longer rely on me to take care of things or answer her questions. Hmmm...

LOL about your HGSD. Hahaha! I like that one. I notice women usually say hello to me when I'm out walking my dogs. I have two miniature pinschers. They are awesome dogs. Sad though. My W loved these dogs and she never asks about them now. I remember one day a couple months ago her and I were both at the house and she looked in the backyard and asked if the dogs were outside. I said no, I didn't bring the dogs with me. One time before that when I did have the dogs over and my W was there, she didn't even pet them. They ran up to her and she just looked down at them. Didn't even say their names. Nothing.

Looking forward to my IC appt. today. I like my IC. He makes a lot of sense.