Her vehicle ( SUV ) has been off the road for several months because of needing repairs we couldnt afford. So she' been driving one of my two vehicles. Well , now that I was able to make the repairs for her and get it ready to go back on the road, she needs to get insurance. So she asked me to look into it and I found out and told her that her own policy would be 121 a month, but if I added it to mine it would only be 76 a month.
She got really upset because she cant afford the 121 a month , but for me to add her truck to my policy would require her putting the title an registration in my name, which she resents , because she " just wants something thats HERS " , not OURS. During the course of this , for the very first time I heard from her that one of her expectations from me as a husband was to provide her with a vehicle !!! This is the FIRST time I EVER heard that in 14 years. Yea , I always bought them in the past , but they were always hers to do with as she pleased.
She's been using one of my vehicles everyday since the big announcement , when part of me really feels like lashing out and telling her if she wants out so bad then she can take on ALL the responsibility herself. We also have cell phones under MY plan , and Im sure she's probably expecting me to pay for them to.
A very close mutual friend of ours once suggested to me that I turn her phone off the last time we went through something like this, so she would get a taste of just how hard it is to work to pay for all the things you take fo granted.
Part of me wants to be a real hard ass and let her fall flat on her face. I KNOW she doesnt make anywhere near enough to cover all the things we've had as a couple all these years.Hell she got pissed at me when I quit smoking last year and refused to keep buying HER smokes. But the other part of me is scared to death that if I try to assert myself and withdrawl support right now , it will only make things completely and totally unsaveable.
Our neighbor across the street is a really good friend and has a degree in psychology and has been letting us both vent to her individually and pretty much acting like Switzerland. Jen says that my wife has told her she just needs her " space " to work out her anger and hurt for my treatment towards her and that she really doesnt want to give up on us yet.
