There's no infidelity that I KNOW of. But I strongly suspect there could be based on pat actions. And where that would have been the " line in the sand" for me a few years ago, I've somehow found it with in myself to forgive even that , since I now know that cheating is a symptom and not the probem.
We were in a similar spot about 3 years ago, and even mutual friends said it certainly appeared like she was having an affair. I found explicit instant messages, X rated Text's , photos etc. That time we only seperated for a week or so and we both went to see a counselor together. My jaw hit the floor when the counselor said unless I caught her in the act , I couldnt accuse her of cheating , even when the circumstantial evidence was rock solid, and even after I stated I didnt care that it happened as much as I cared about being told the truth.
I mean , how do you say with a straight face that nothing was going on when I saw the pictures , I have copies of the messages saying how much you wish you were screwing etc???
I can understand the need or desire to seek from another person what I wasnt giving her. Even though that sounds like Im excusing it.
