Hi,

Quickly, I will hit some things:

It will be important for you to PROJECT that you are confident and happy (with or without her)whenever you are in her presence.

Project that you want to be with her, but do not NEED to be with her.

Project what she will be giving up. A good looking confident man.

Statement to make to her:
"I want you to be happy. If XYZ is the ONLY way for you to be happy, I will not stand in your way."

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712