This post is probably going to ramble all over the place , so I apologize in advance. Im watching the destruction of my family before my very eyes and its tearing me apart. I've read DR and I know from a mutual friend that my wife has stated she isnt ready to quit on us yet , and she has said the same to me as well but she is determined to " get her space " by moving out and into a small rental home she got thru a friend at her work. We have two kids together , my almost 6 year old daughter and a 7 mo old son. I've been able to convince my wife to let the kids stay with me for now , so my daughter can finish Kindergarten in the same school.
I also admit I hoped against hope that between when everything erupted the first week of May and the end of June would be enough time for my wife to have her space AND see the changes I've made and am committed to keeping,but each day that she drops by, she takes a little more of her stuff with her.
I know the vast majority of what she's upset about is my fault, the neglect , emotional attachment , me being selfish , her feeling taken for granted ,etc. I just didnt see it when it was happening and the subtle little clues that she was sending before that now appear as big as billboards I completely missed when they were being sent.
She has acknowledged bringing her own unresolved issue's from her childhood and baggage from her first failed marriage to our relationship. She even admits to " putting me through hell " the first few years because of her issue's of trusting men, but she's now adamant that she let her guard down and believed and trusted in me and she got hurt for her efforts.
Its especially painful because not only have I unintentionally hurt someone I care deeply about and am as crazy about as the day we met, but that I've now put my children in the position of having a seperation to endure , which is something I SWORE I would
