With everything that happened the last couple of days. I know that my H is trying to manipulate me. When I finally stood up for myself and told him I was done, I know it scared him. And he is trying to manipulate me back into waiting for him.
He's been controlling his marriage into a ditch for six months now... longer I believe... I hope he is wiling to accept he has done a lot of damage here.
I suspect he's worried he is going to have to walk about the rest of his life in shame if he is honest about his infidelity, which is impeeding his return.
He does need to understand he's safe to be honest. I just don't know if everyone pretending he's NOT cheating is the best route to take here... It just seems to strengthen his resolve to avoid ownership of the damage he's done.
He's controlling the marriage right now mb28, he's strangling it to death and has been for months, YOU have been struggling to keep it alive... While he stands back hiding with his hands over his ears accusing you of controlling the situation to excess.
