try to compartmentalize to get through the court date. be an observer as much as you can. watch her and see what she says and does. if she says nasty things about you in court, future, that's going to be tough. is she trying to put the last nail in the coffin or is she trying to see if there is still any life in there? agree with puppy...she is very conflicted. just stay your course. a divorce doesn't mean its over forever, but might be a necessary part of the process...
I think I'm in a good place to do exactly what you say. I won't be reactive, and I have no idea what she's going to say. Sure doesn't seem to me she's putting nails in the coffin. In fact, I feel like she has the pry bar, and is pulling out the nails she's already put in!
I agree that separation or divorce very well might necessary at this point. I can't live in this legal limbo forever.
