Before and After/Extreme Makeover

[holdingon]

What am I doing wrong people? We both admit that it's hard for us to express affection, and we both know that it's important to do. It's hard for me to put my heart on my sleeve and then.....nothing.

Oh well, maybe in time. I'll just have to keep doing it and maybe he'll get the hint. Teach by example, I guess.

Maybe he is afraid of letting you get too close. I feel this from my H. I think he purposefully holds me at arms length for fear of what I am really going to say -- am I going to lash out at him (like he knows he deserves?). All the while I ASSume that he is thinking "see, I knew I couldn't love her again..." I don't know. All I do know is that this is so INCREDIBLY hard, all encompassing (whether you want it to be or not) and without end.

I do think you need to keep on keeping on with the affection, tenderness, etc. Eventually he will soften and come around, hopefully.

Now, as to what I should do, I don't have a clue.