She didn't have any glaring red flags. I think she hid a lot of it very well. And being on the road a lot, she could easily come and go without raising suspicion. It was mainly just little things she would say. She never changed. She still hasn't. Either she found someone who is completely happy with who she is, or it is over. I guess I would still expect some sort of change from her after walking away. But preferring not to be challenged is sort of her M.O.
--Fergie
Just had a very similar convo. with my C yesterday (yep, I missed work but went to my C bc I hadn't seen her in 3 weeks!). For exH and I to ever reconcile, he would have to do some serious introspection and he appears to have no desire to change/grow. So either ow is willing to take the crumbs he gives or they are over and he will have to be content with shallow R's in the future, unless/until he grows.
As much as it sucks, I would still prefer to be US in this scenario. Because we have grown and changed through the process but they have not...
