-- He thinks his "friend" (and I use that term loosely) and his W have a great set-up. The W and kids are in the house. H has an apartment 3 miles away. He comes and goes as he pleases, when it suits him. GEE, SIGN ME UP FOR THAT! NOT
That is exactly what my H would like to have, only he lives 5 hours away. He wants to come home and play happy family, whenever he feels like.
THIS is EXACTLY what I LET my ex do, for 9 months, after he moved out January 2009. And I regret it. He moved out (to his parents', classy) and then he stopped by almost every night to hang out with the kids, after work until they went to bed, then he left. But if he found a better option on a particular night, he didn't come.
So he got to see them as much as he wanted while still being able to have his own private time and/or time with ow. Meanwhile I was attached to the kids 24/7, sometimes with him, sometimes without him. I allowed it, thinking that having 'family time' gave him a chance to see and appreciate me---yeah, cause that did the trick the prior 10 years?!
So anyway good for you on not allowing that to happen...
