I am feeling hopeless today. It is clear that W is going forward with D as a game plan to pull her out of depression and anxiety. D is what she is focusing on to pull her out of her morasse. She is so focused on it, that any sort of deviation from her decision means that she is failing in her goal of being strong and independent. There is no thought of reevaluating our R, the M is over, this is her only way forward, in her mind.

I see no way out. Easy to feel hopeless and discarded.

H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012