It may surprise you to find that I have given this serious thought, particularly this week after my STBXH was so cold and callous that he couldn't even pretend it would bother him if I were with another man. I told him then that if you don't care then I might as well BE with another man.
My BIL just bought a double wide trailer close to theirs and it would rent for 1,200 a month. With a roommate I could swing the $600 a month, because I would ask for at least that much in monthly support from STBXH. I could sit for my great nephew as needed and wait tables or banquet the rest of the time. I know how to work, and I know how to live frugally.
The house is a sticking point. The market isn't great here in upstate NY. I may have to rent it out if it won't sell for what I need it to. Of course if STBXH wanted to stay here and pay all the bills I would make it legal. Of course a sale price of $140k would pay off my student loans, the home equity, and leave me a fair bit of money in the bank. (I would plan to split the rest with H, since he is not going to have his retirement left alone as he thought when he signed the house over to me. Half of that is mine, thank you.)
I have already applied for two jobs in Key West. Both offer relocation expenses, so that would cover the move.
How am I doing so far?
This doesn't mean I've stopped crying, or hurting, or am even close. However, I think I can heal just as well on a Key West Beach as I can in the land of taxes and snow.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
