oh--almost forgot. xH shot me an email earlier today about D14 spending the weekend with him; Saturday is a surprise birthday party for a friend of his and Sunday is graduation blessings at his church. ummmm...Saturday is MY birthday, thank you very much, and she's spending it with ME. later on he asked how old I am--and was off by several years with his guess (but I let him think he was correct). hard to believe I was married to this man for almost 15 years.