Well hallelujah!! I finally got an answer. Rob, Puppy, Pearl you were right. Add it to the books. God it feels good to not wonder if I am crazy. Certainly not easy to hear, but at this point I can deal with it.
Bro it's certainly not something we want to be right in, in fact I wish I could be wrong every single time it's suspected that an affair is going on or has happened but after a while you learn to spot the trends, as much as every specific situation on these forums is different, the warning signs are all the same, the ILYBINILWY's, spending more time out with "friends", changing appearances, changing routines, locking cell phones, new underwear, staying out late, having the need to "find" one's self, MLC, a spouse that hates you and treats you poorly over a long period of time, disrespect, etc. etc. etc.
FWIW, you're handling this like a champ - regardless if you wear a kilt or not ;-)
