I was thinking about what you wrote, about your WH installing computer software, and I really think you should NOT let him touch your computer. You have no idea what he might instal or look at on there besides.
Why bring this up? Because actually of OW. She is facing a D as much as you and WH. She stands to loose a lot -- her kids, her H's income, her house, and so on. Especially if her H proves infidelity. I know you have no-fault, but you also have infidelity (<1year to divorce) -- and HER H may use it to protect himself. What this means is that she will be very frightened. It also means that her H must have proof (like emails, texts, photos, etc). It also means that she, and by extension your WH, will do everything they can to protect their interests. Your WH too, he will want to protect his financial interests for his future with OW. Rightly or wrongly, and whether their future actually happens or not is still unknown, but THEIR heads will be thinking these things.
OK, I'm sure you have enough to think about without this. But you can still stand for your marriage while protecting your future. It's on my mind because I have to go back to this now too.
