You are handling the sitch well and in a good place from what I read. I agree the Good Lord will let you know in some way or another what you need to do. It will be interesting to see what effect of open rebuke from church members will do to your Wife's state of mind.
Sad to see so many wayword spouses lost in the "fog" of deception. We live in a throw away world, if you aren't happy throw it away and find new. Disappointing to say the least, it is impressive the amount of strength and endurance people show when faced with such traumatic circumstances.
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!