I am so afraid of allowing cake-eating but do not want to cut him off completely. Especially since I am now in control of my emotions. I am living my life quite nicely, albeit lonely.
Like I said in the previous post, if what you are doing is working (meaning he is pursuing connecting with you) then keep it going! Also trust your intuition. I also believe in my case, going dark would hurt more than help, so dim it is. And it looks like dim is good for you. You started it a couple of months ago but if I am recalling correctly, you have seen more and more glimpses of your old H in the last month, right?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
