MLCer or addicted infidel?

[newmama]

I know I shouldn't analyze his behavior, but how else do I know how to respond? I am trying to stay dim, but he is becoming a pest. He is calling, texting, with unimportant stuff.

Hmmm. Dim = increased communication from H.

So why change it if it works? What is that saying- "do what works?"

You can always ask me to help you mind read or analyze your H,lol!

Now of course we want to think the best and hope your H is missing you (which he is) and is figuring out how to come back....BUT there are other explanations:

any chance he could be quarreling with OW? A friend of mine theorizes that during limbo, when the WS reaches out to us, it is because of trouble in paradise. But he warns that when the argument clears up, the behavior goes away. So if you stay consistent and then see him becoming less pesty, this could make sense.

When he acts like this to you, are you staying consistent?

Does he have any possible ulterior motive regarding money or needing to butter you up for something?