Good luck with your reconciliation! It can be difficult. My H and I reconciled using the Retrouvaille program. We found it was a wonderful supportive environment that helped us tremendously. Don't know if we could have done it on our own, probably not. You should consider going on one of their weekends. Check out the website, www.helpourmarriage.org for dates and locations. As for getting the sex back, I took the initiative on that one. He was the one with the affair, so he played hard to get. But I guess after 28 years together, I knew how to entice him. Once we broke through that barrier, things were better. But we still needed Retrouvaille to learn how to talk to each other without hurt feelings.
