This is so hard. I can't tell what he is after. I am so afraid of allowing cake-eating but do not want to cut him off completely. Especially since I am now in control of my emotions. I am living my life quite nicely, albeit lonely.
I know I shouldn't analyze his behavior, but how else do I know how to respond? I am trying to stay dim, but he is becoming a pest. He is calling, texting, with unimportant stuff.
Last night, he stopped by for junk mail and a gym bag he'd lent DD. 2 minutes after he leaves, he's calling again.
Earlier yesterday, I had to send him some tax records for this hassle we are going thru with the business. He texted me that they were what he needed and to wish him luck. So I did. There were a half dozen or so more texts, him being down about the possible outcome and me offering encouragement and support. I was brief, You can do it, It will be ok, and other confidence upping stuff.
Today he called to tell me what happened at the attny mtg. Very chatty, (1/2 hour) just like he used to be. Now I know this is something he can talk about with OW, so why am I now talk-to-able? I really do not want to be his friend while he is living with OW in the sleazy ho-tel. OTOH, I want him to know I am safe. But also know that my life life is going on. maybe he is waiting for me to move on and file, he's checking to see if I'm ok with it. I know this is mind-reading. How else do I determine how to respond? Stay dim, go darker so this isn't a concern? But then he'll think.....
AND I know not to focus on him. Here is where I come to get H issues off my chest so I can spend the rest of the day totally focused on me and my kids.
Wish H wasn't being so pesty...or maybe pesty is a good thing?....
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
