Tal, please heed Rachael's words. Wolfie wouldn't be doing no where near as many of these things you listed if he continued to have emotional ties to OW. I have to admit, I feel a bit jealous of what you have now.
... and those fear and insecurities are part of the aftermath, but put faith in that ... as long as you remain true to your new self, Wolfie will be reaffirmed daily that he has made the right choice to live his life with you ... and those demons will become powerless over you.
