How do I expose the affair

[4luv]

Hi mb28,

If your husband wants you guys to REALLY see a therapist then HE needs to call and talk to the therapists. That is what I recommend. I had MANY convos with husband like you had above and when he said that he would see a therapists (at my suggesting) I found one that met his criteria, set up the appointment, and in the end it was all fake! I am not 100% sure this will happen in your case but just be cautious. If you have to mention the appointment to your husband without him asking YOU about it then I would be cautious. If he REALLY wants to go to therapy then he will mention it like "hey mb, when is our appointment." Let him bring it up...don't even tell him you scheduled it in MY opinion. I don't want to project what happened in my stitch to you but just saying that I bent over backwards to make an appointment, we went three times and the affair was still going on.

This time husband actually made his own appointment and has continued to make his own appointment. I had to make the first one (due to insurance issues) but that was only after husband had the office call me to ask me to make the appointment and verify my insurance info. So the conclusion that I have come to is that is a person is ACTUALLY willing and motivated then they will show some initiative (even if it is just a little). Don't do all the work for him...and yes I am writing this as advice to myself :-)