3. Husband says he wished I wouldn't taken all of that crap from him. He says that he feels he needed help. He wishes that I would have approached him and said "Look, I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND WHO YOU ARE DOING IT WITH AND IF YOU DON'T QUIT THEN I AM LEAVING." He wishes that I would not have taken crap for so long. When I said you should appreciate the fact that I took your crap in order to save our marriage, my husband replied "why should I appreciate you taking crap? No one should take crap."
But at the same time- if you hadn't have DB'd then he wouldn't have seen your changes and he wouldn't have been able to compare you to OW and say to himself "4luv wasn't that bad" Did any of your changes motivate him to end the A ?
Last edited by newmama; 05/20/1003:23 AM.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
