Okay, let me throw out a positive "spin". If H hadn't been home and ready to stay, he wouldn't have made such a suggestion at all. Sometimes, it just being insenstive and not thinking, not any great strategy. I don't think he meant to hurt you, he just didn't think, and then he's put off by the thought that he needs to be "on his toes", minding his manners all the time. I know that upsets my H. It's a positive sign that he's able to talk to you without thinking it through first.
Quote: he just didn't think, and then he's put off by the thought that he needs to be "on his toes", minding his manners all the time.
Hmmm...yes, this sounds plausible. Knowing him as I do, this is something that he might be "put off" by.
Actually, about an hour ago, H asked me, nicely this time, if I was feeling alright. I mentioned that he had been prickly to be around today. (He's been tired and testy all weekend).
Anyhow, he apologized and said that he wasn't upset with me, just tired and in physical pain. He hugged me close and and I made a little joke.
"Yea, you've been prickly - but at least you're not a prick.
Shiny... Word of the week.
Although he did not directly apologize for his earlier remark, I felt it in his touch.
Jeannine, Honestly, I don't think they think they are hurting us with things that often cut us to the core. My H (okay, he knows he's hurting me with the OW thing...) gave me 3 sets of 4 tickets to ball games. I thought I would cry. To me it meant, I am not going, the three of you go, invite someone else. And one game is in April. To H, he thought he was being really nice giving us the tickets, cause he LOVES to go to the games.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Word of the week.