WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

J
The guy that baptized my wife has taken a real interest in my situation and is driving activity among the leaders at my W's church.

He asked my W to tell me that he has a bible study group once a week and invited me to come. I went today and talked with him afterward. He told me the "Family Life" pastor at the church wanted to speak with me, so I called him.

You realize that they are trying to make you join their church, not save your marriage, right?

If they believed that marriage was an important part of being a good Christian, all these people who are around your wife would have already told her to honor her vows, stop lying, and commit herself to the marriage. Or if not that, then cut the ties with you and give her whole heart to this new way of life she's supposedly a part of.

Since she's done neither - and the church members have done squat as well - you can logically deduce that they have no interest in saving your marriage. All they want to do is get you into their way of thinking, follow their beliefs, maintain that they are good hearted, loving people. Which they aren't. If this church is so lovey-dovey about its members, there's no way the people at that church didn't know the OM wasn't your wife's LEGAL husband.

It's a fraud.

They are bearing false witness. Stay away from this. If you believe God is speaking to you and sending you messages, then this is a test of some sort. If your wife wanted to come back, she would.

She hasn't.

Listen in your heart...do you think God wants you to be humiliated around a group of liars and people who post pictures of their baptism on Facebook (you know, instead of enjoying the moment in private?).

Thanks for the comments knitted, but as we discussed before, your take on my W's church isn't what I see in person. It is a big church (not evangelical) so without calling attention to it, it would be easy for two people to carry on an affair and have no one there know about it. The only reason anyone there knows is because I happened to tell my story to the guy who baptized my W, and he has taken it upon himself to call BS on the affair and talk to the pastors about it.

They are not trying to convert me. They know I am a devout Catholic; and 80% of the members of that church know all about that, as they are former Catholics themselves. In fact, the major pieces of their doctrine is in line with that of the Catholic Church.

The Women's Ministry pastor has already met with my wife multiple times to call her out on her behavior. There are also several other people in various roles at the church who have talked to her or are intending to. I'm sure there have been plenty of emails and offers to talk that my W has just flat out ignored because she doesn't want to hear someone tell her how sinful her behavior is. They are serious about getting her to change her behavior. Way more serious than I would have expected. In fact, I expected them to just keep their mouths shut and look the other way, as my first thought, before checking the church out, was that it was an "I'm OK, you're OK" kind of place. It's not.

You are correct in saying if my W wanted to come back, she would. She may never do so. I can't say that I'm not close to lowering the boom on this marriage. But I do believe in the power of prayer, I do believe all things are possible with God, and I still get signals to hold on. When they are gone, then so am I.