HoldingOn,
be easy here. The pieces are just tenderly put back together. H may need some reassurrance here

Good point.
It's important for me to keep this in mind.

RMC,
Those feelings that come on a dime

Yep...

I don't think your H has any desire WHATSOEVER to live apart from you.

Thanks, I needed to hear that.

T2,
the truth is, our minds wouldn't rush off to those terrible places if they hadn't gone where they did.

Oh so true!
I'm sorry to hear that you have had your share of "verbal faux paus", but I do take comfort in hearing that this may be a mere side effect in "the process".

Jeannine