still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

And I do agree with everyone who said he needs to end the A, not be forced to. Like I have said, I gave an ultimatum in Jan 09. He chose me and took the A underground. So in March I tried another ultimatum (because that is what you do, right? Meaning I had no other clue)and then decided not to divorce because I am confident his A will end and I wanted him to live out the fantasy with her so he can see for himself and not have any regrets or relapses when we R.