Four months is not long B... I went for over two years on and off... she sent OM away, he came back, sent him away, he came back.. TWO YEARS
Did you know Bren that tears indicate emotional growth?
Each time your H cries, he grows up a TINY BIT...
Why would you HATE to see that?
He needs to do MORE of it...
I say let him bawl.
YOU my dear need to learn to DETACH emotionally from this situation... divorce is not going to end your pain, emotional detachment makes a HUGE difference... and Ya, my wife and I fought in the same home too... we weren't separated either... I would be in one room and she would be in another sending secret messages to OM...
It feels like forced suicide I know...
But I say you find some leverage, get your head out of your heart and start THINKING...
Where is OW vulnerable? Whom have you exposed to so far?
