Maybe I didn't blow it?

[mza8]

konfuseeed, Sandi has it right. Don't mention the anniversary. Listen to what Sandi said about how it would have pushed her further away if her H had done the same thing. By her H not doing that, he gained some respect by Sandi.

I sent my W some flowers for her birthday a couple of weeks ago. She told me it made her uncomfortable. That made it clear to me that any pursuing does push them away. My W and I anniversary of our first date (20 years ago) is next week and I will not be sending her anything.

Listen to Sandi here, she knows what she's talking about.