I agree that you should minimize contact now...she will come back and when she does, be DIM- positive and detached.
My advice may be disagreed w/ but I would take some steps back and not even mention H, W, or M at this point.
Your W had a huge issue w/ OM ignoring her (though he would also double talk, etc)...I would instill some loss w/in her. Keep busy, go out w/ the boys, but also remain accountable and responsible.
They say the withdrawal takes some months, from last contact- any minute contact can set the clock back to zero...
Do not feed into any negativity and be DIM.
When I was DARK for about a month, my WAW was broken up w/ by OM2 and actually contemplated the TRUTH about our M...no more rewriting things-
this was short lived b/c I think I welcomed her back too quickly, BUT being somewhat absent will allow the true perspective to return.
Now- do not neglect, if you say something you do it (what you're gonna do, what time you'll be home, etc)...still speak w/ your actions, but just take care of you.
