If You Forget Me #71

[saffie]

Having these conversations with your H is the only way of finding out why he was unfaithful in the first place. Only once that is established will you know if you are able as a couple to prevent those circumstances happening again and putting your M into the danger zone - at least that is how it seemed to work for my H and I.

However much those outside the M may want to help, and may want to try to stop your hurting by helping your H 'deal' with what is happening, this is just between you and him.

It will take time and you do need to be able to forgive one another. I don't agree with MWD about the forgiving the OW stuff - I shall hate my H's OW forever I expect for what she knowingly did; but I have forgiven my H. I am not saying the odd jab doesn't still come out my mouth now and then.....but generally there is humour attached to it.