BTW, if she gets snoty about you not saying anything about the anniversary, simply ask her what was there to say? Don't fall into her traps. It is over-the-top arrogance for a WAW to "expect" her LBH to wish her a happy anniversary.
If she asks if you've thought about what day it was.....or anything like that, just reply with "yes".....but don't get off into a bunch of mushy stuff about having her on your mind, etc. She is fishing for that so that she'll know she still is in power in the R.
If you don't wilt about this--and leave it all up to her....it will be funny to watch her make a silly a$$ out of herself as she tries to display her control over you. Stick to you guns and just keep cool and watch how she operates. If she gets mad over the fact you didn't say or do something on anniversary.....that should tell you all you need to know about "where" she is.
I can tell you that my H did not recognize our anniversary or Valentine's Day and I respected him for not licking my feet. I was being disrespectful to him and our M. Why should he do or say something sweet or even "positive" to me about the holiday? If he had.....it would have pushed me back miles away from him. As it was, I took notice. I didn't respond in any fashion......nor did I immediately drop OM....but I noticed!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
