I am glad to hear that! I don't disagree with your C but I also know that sometimes actions speak louder than words. And maybe the gym just seemed like too much at the time for her. I would just wait and see how things go and let her do the contacting and reaching out for some time to come.
As you detach and build a new life for yourself you will then be in the position to decide if you want to pursue anything more with your W if such an opportunity presents itself.
My H was in a long term affair, was destroying our finances, we were in a terrible legal battle, he was terribly mean to me yet from time to time he would send me these ridiculous photos of dogs wearing hats via e-mail. I mean, WTF! In his strange mind it was his way of "cheering me up". He wasn't trying to reach out or initiate contact... in his mind he was being a "good guy" by trying to make me laugh. Or at least that is what he told me.
