She is lashing out because she got caught with her hand in the cookie jar. Do your best to let it all slide off your back. It's hard as hell. Believe me, I know.
When my W was caught, she did the exact same things. She twisted our M around so that it sounded like it was MY fault that made her cheat. Right now she's addicted. You're a police officer. Think of an addict. When they don't get their fix they start lashing out and look at others to blame except for themselves.
How do you treat an addict? You stop enabling. You don't argue back. There's no point to do so. The harder you argue, the more they'll push back. Become the wall. She can batter you all she wants, but you continue to stay strong.
I repeat. It will be HARD. But start thinking of her as an addict. Detach the emotions.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
