Protecting myself financially has demonstrated to her that this is a serious business, and that I will make the hard choices. Besides that, it was the right thing to do for sure!
Telling her I am seeking legal advice will further re-enforce this demonstration and hit her with a 2x4. Besides that, getting advice is the right thing to do for sure!
To her this will look like I am moving on. This will upset her.
To me it is a part of the acceptance of where we are and where we are headed. I need to separate & detach, if only to protect myself and my boys.
But by telling her, it may push her into taking an action she did not want to take and both accelerate and escalate things until they begin to snowball.
But by setting things into motion does not mean that I have to follow through with it - I just don't sign the papers.
I want to fight for my R with my WAW, but the old R is dead.
Perhaps one way or the other we have to end the R.
Perhaps D is the only route out of this. It could end in a new R with the WAW, or one with someone else. Either way, perhaps the harsh reality is that I must move into the unknown...?
Just catching clouds..
Regards, Gyn.
Cause all of the stars, Have faded away, Just try not to worry, You'll see them someday. Take what you need, And be on your way and, Stop crying your heart out.
