Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Thanks everyone. Your replies have really helped me feel comfortable about my response to my W's email.

GM, I know that financial security is a big part of it for my W. Many of my friends think once the house sells that my W might feel a lot less stress and that could be the time she begins to talk. Who knows? I'll have a copy of the His Needs Her Needs book tomorrow. I'll be interested to read the chapter on financial security.

I don't know much about MLC but I think you have a good chance to get through that with your W especially since you are both still in MC. Has your W acknwoledged more of your changes?

Robx, I feel like the NC might be starting to show some signs from W. I'm staying on that path.

Gr8, I'm going to reply to W with pretty much the exact changes that Gucci suggested. Direct and to the point. The only thing I'm still thinking of asking her is a general question like, "how do you feel about it?", like GM suggested. I don't think that's a bad idea. My IC made similar suggestions as well as my DB coach.

I haven't replied to her yet and strangely I don't feel in any rush to reply. I would have jumped at the chance to respond right away a couple of months ago. I think I'm just tired of knowing that her responses to me always make me feel down. I might wait until tomorrow to respond to W. I have my IC appt. tomorrow and might wait to talk to my IC first. Not that I will change anything with my reply but just to get some things off my chest.

To answer your question, no, my W hasn't specifically asked how I'm doing or feeling. I'm sure it's mostly business about the house. However, in this email she did say she wanted to see what I was thinking and she hoped I was having a good week. That's a lot more than I've gotten from her in a long time. Maybe that's the best she can do right now?

This seems ridiculous to me to think this much about how to respond to my W now, when it used to come so easy in the M.