I do think he needs to practice because just showing up at the games isn't going to help him improve. However I have made it clear to Dan that I am not a great team-sport athlete. I am better at dancing, running, and academic stuff (graduate college with a 3.95 and didn't truly exert myself).
So I am the go-to girl for taking him to the bookstore, helping with school work, and running around outside. However I am not going to be the basketball, baseball, or whatever sport coach. That will have to be him. It all goes back to FOO (family of origin). They taught us about that at Retro.
In my house, my mom actually never played with me that I can recall. It was always my sisters. I chose to change that by playing with my kids. However my dad was the one who played softball with us in the backyard. In Dan's house his dad was pretty much absentee...he ran away from home basically by working a day job and spending all evening/weekends farming. He was definitely henpecked so in a way I don't blame him, but that is why MIL turned Dan into her surrogate husband. (Gross, but you get what I mean.)
Anyway she did all the housework, worked a full time job, did all the childcare, taught all of the kids how to play all of their sports, etc etc. She definitely has a martyr complex about it and thinks her kids 'owe her' for all she had sone for them.
Anyway Dan expects me to do it all w/the kids bc that's how his mom did it. That's probably why his first A was w/a single mom and his second was with a basically single mom, she and her H hardly spent time together and as soon as her H found out about the A he D'd her so then she really was a single mom...
Onto other things...I have the flu. Doctor was stymied and said apparently I am "patient zero" of a new flu outbreak. It isn't really flu season, though. Lucky me! I got a prescription for Tamiflu and albuterol, as the lining of my lungs is inflamed. I asked when I could go back to school, and he said it may be Monday... crap!
