I have come home to an emptied house....What next?

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She could just be acting nice to me until she side-swipes me with a petition for D, but I don't get that feeling. I think we are at the moment at the limit of what she has planned.

Or maybe when you started moving to protect yourself financially, she figured out you weren't going to lay around being a victim.

She basically told me what you guys and gals have been saying and to get my head down and move on.

Except we say you need to detach and take care of yourself. Whether or not you get divorced is up to you.

Only you know the answer to that. We say protect yourself and worry about your own health and happiness first and don't make her the focus because it isn't doing you any good.

If I do decide to go down the D route I need to do it because I want to and that I am ready for it.

Exactly, only you know if that is the right thing to do and feels like the right thing to do.