She questioned how I could interfere in someone else's family, and I said the way you have been. I asked her if she thought it was okay for both of them to cheat on their families while they are still married.
Good!
It is amazing how we can get sidetracked into arguments of if the OM or OMW had it worse. Stay focused to your goals - be polite, kind. Your kids will only have more respect for you, and you'll have a better say in court if it comes to that.
I honestly feel terrible for you, but I am excited for what the change in circumstances may lead to. Being stuck waiting is painful.
Still...focus on the goal - happy kids, happy you, and a feeling of being a good man even if your wife wasn't able/willing to be a good woman. Maybe she'll change, maybe not. Hours and days can make a difference toward good or bad, nevermind weeks.
I won't offer hugs, but I hope your kids can give that to you on my behalf~
