Yes I said it was an over simplification, but there has been a pattern in dbing of you pushing him away and then wanting more from him again! At some point, if you are going to have him back, you have to 'surrender' and risk getting hurt again (he does seem very very committed though)? As Lotus said and we said, there are no gaurantuees in a new R either right. You could find yourself here again in 5/10 years time (not HERE, dont think you would DB ever again, lol!!). You gotta let those barriers down, wave the white flag. Its alot to get past though, of course, as your BGF told him. Sorry you are feeling down.. is your iron ok? xx
