I just remembered that my h actually told me on the phone last night that he is withdrawing from everyone?? What? This doesn't sound good to me at all. It actually worries me so much.
M 35, husband 35 M 10 Limbo 9/2009-12/2010 he left for his moms and came home way to many times to count Home 12/2010-present
nicole 8:I just remembered that my h actually told me on the phone last night that he is withdrawing from everyone?? What? This doesn't sound good to me at all. It actually worries me so much.
That will not be pretty. It will make you almost make you wish for when he was out partying to try to fix it if you sit around and watch that part. You need to keep going to the gym and work on detaching from his personal pain. You can't carry your pain and his.
rr22: You want to talk about crazy...that is crazy, but he was at that time ridden with guilt because he was about to leave us again after a fake two week reconcile in October. I believe he knew all along he wasn't going to stay and I think it was meant to prove to him that I hadn't changed and that he was in the right to have moved out and done all that he had done, but the complete opposite happened. I proved my changes and it made him feel more guilty.
Nicole: Have you talked to MIL yet? If he is withdrawing from everyone it is not a good thing and he does really need some help just in case he moves to an even darker place. Someone, probably not you, needs to check in with him. A friend or family member? Someone who will listen to him without judging or forcing their ideas, but really be his confidant
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My h has not been out partying to mask his pain. He sits at his moms house, works and spends time with the ow. I'm not positive she is still in the picture though. I am wondering if maybe she is no longer in the picture and that is why he is acting even more depressed... I'm just guessing, but I think she found out he is still m and hadn't filed yet. So how serious do you think she thought he was?
Anyway, no I gave not talked to mil yet..... I am being very slow to move on this one. I am waiting to see how the h will react to my asking him to watch the "men get depression" DVD I got. Pretty sure he is going to be pissed and mad, I'm not sure actually.
He is just so random. He told me monday night maybe we could talk Tuesday night. Then I asked him yesterday if he wanted to talk and he made it sound like he did but then he didn't come over, call or text. I just left it alone and don't want to push him.
I'm trying hard to be patient, understanding and not pushy. But this is VERY hard for me.
M 35, husband 35 M 10 Limbo 9/2009-12/2010 he left for his moms and came home way to many times to count Home 12/2010-present
Please no appologies.... I am just so frustrated and I wasn't trying to be rude rr22....
Not much has happened with my h as of lately. Except he asked again via text If I would consider signing the papers.... I've already told him I would. He is frustrating me beyond nothing else in my life.
I got a call from our dentist this morning.... Apparently he missed an appointment today. Really, he is that unorganized and lost. He doesn't care about anything except he doesn't want me to worry about him.
M 35, husband 35 M 10 Limbo 9/2009-12/2010 he left for his moms and came home way to many times to count Home 12/2010-present
Well the h is being rather rude. I went over to his moms on thurs night to talk. He basically told me all the same stuff he has been saying about himself again... That he is a loser and hates his life it totally sucks and I don't meant to be with him. Here is the part that upset me. He said he doesn't particarly like his mom (WTF?), he pointed at his dads picture and said "I was my dads boy...) do you think I like my brother too? Because I don't he's an ass, but I put up with him because of that guy (pointing at his dads pic again) that's my penance in life.
He doesn't want to "chit chat" with me.... He doesn't think it will do any good. He just wants out of the marriage and he needs my help. Really? He will barelylook at me and claims be gets that lump again.
I basically just got up and left... My h is not there at all. The aliens took him. He texted later and said " I'm sorry I don't know what you expect or want from me"
Now he is bugging me again to pick up the papers. He is coming in the morning. He said again the other night he wants nothing he just wants out.
I am so lost and just don't know what to do except let him go and find himself. I think he is still seeing the ow. I don't know how to confirm it but I think he is and that is why he is being pushy about the papers.
M 35, husband 35 M 10 Limbo 9/2009-12/2010 he left for his moms and came home way to many times to count Home 12/2010-present
