h4L: But she says to expect him to bait me, resist, start fights to prove to himself he's right in leaving me but to never take that bait.
yes, it seems true. but how long can one put up with this behavior is my question to db coach? i'm not around because i'm busy and also my sitch is much the same. there's nothing to say. yes, i too saw gains with the approach of what you were told. just how you saw the other night but it led nowhere accept to basically the above sitch. plus other weirdness. ali might be right. but she did this for THREE years until his depression lifted and then he said (sorry if i'm wrong, ali, on specifics) that he "did not know" and "had no clue" why he had acted like that for three years. maybe ali took six years off her life. maybe not. maybe she is very laidback. not sure.
