This was always YOUR choice, just as much as it was his all along thoughout the crisis.
Each person knows that he/she can and cannot deal with in the way of standing/waiting or not with/for the MLC'er.
Apparently, you'd already reached your limit with not just with your husband's behavior, but with the situation/crisis as a whole.
There were never any right or wrong answers in this, as each person is different in the going through of this journey.
As long as you've answered all the "what if" questions; you should be able to move forward without your husband. From what you've posted, you've had enough.
This may trigger yet another grieving process within you for what might have been but did not happen.
With your husband still being currently still within the crisis, he is right, he still cannot make any kind of firm decision that will satisfy your needs at this time...yet, you felt a choice needed to be made.
Right or wrong that is your right to do what you think you need to do.
((((Upside))))
I wish you well in the future.
Being honest, as I've always been, I honestly have no personal experience with moving on without the MLC spouse; I just know it's one of the many possibilities that can happen within this crisis, and it does NOT mean the LBS failed.
You are absolutely correct, you are definitely a success for walking your own journey toward wholeness, finding yourself, solidifying your changes within YOU.
I do not know if your husband will ever see what he's lost in you..but eventually, I believe they ALL do see the losses they suffer, given some time.
Much love, HB
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
