You know when he comes and goes, right? People are pretty predictable--he gets home at a certain time, shops at a certain time, etc.

Spy on him a bit if you have to! Who cares if he sees you--this is a 180 anyway--that you are curious about him.

You haven't ever pursued him AT ALL. I know with me, pursuing is fine, because I never did it.

Did you "pursue" in the friendship before you were married? I know I did!! I wanted him bad--oops--now I got him!lol.

It's not my nature, but I see that it's different.