I am sorry things have taken a turn this way. You have been amazing throughout all of this.
I don't know what keeps them stuck. I can relate with you in the fact that my ex realizes and admits her part in all of this as well, but yet does nothing to change. It's like something is still not clicking. Perhaps they're still paralyzed with fear or they haven't quite made the connection or suffered enough loss to give them that desire to change. Who knows?
The important thing to focus on now, is you. Maybe it's time to not have any contact with him if at all possible. It seems as though that would be good for you both right now.
Chart your course, remain strong, and take care of your best interests.
Originally Posted By: Upside
I see now that he will never let himself appreciate anything I have done for him.
It might be wise to avoid "never". I have a feeling he may, when he looks around and sees you're nowhere to be found.
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This was not the man I married. This is not the man I want to spend the rest of my life with.
You're correct. I feel exactly the same way about my ex.
Dealing with ourselves and making positive, lasting change is extremely difficult. It's a constant battle that doesn't end. It's all on him as to how he chooses to live his life and face his battles.
Keep your head held high and continue your fight to become and remain better. Be proud of who you are and how you've handled yourself.
