Showing compassion in this case, if I am not mistaken, would be for you to give her what she wants. "Wife,I don't want a divorce but if that is what you need then I will not stand in the way of your happiness."
Yes, it is counter-intuitive but a lot of DB is.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final