OK, I see. I need to do protection phase. That's going to be hard to do with her in the house. She cooks for me and initiates conversations with me to.
Walk away, show her you aren't interested in hearing it... Read OfficerInNeed's thread... OIN's wife lives with him and is fantasizing about OM. She baits the guy into fights on a daily basis... He has trouble controlling himself too.
You need to back off your wife and let her BREATHE.. you are a NOTORIOUS PURSUER ken.. you've been doing it for months.... You think because OM [i]says[i] he's gone you can just start working on your marriage and talking to your wife like nothing's happened?
She needs time to process everything... ASSUMING OM is gone and has CONVINCED HER that he's gone for GOOD... Which I doubt he's done. He likley just told her she had to wait a few months for him to get properly setup to support her.
Don't be a fool.
You turn on Dr Phil and you are headed for trouble right now. Your wife is NOT ready to WORK on your marriage yet... So ANYTHING she HEARS she is going to TWIST into an ATTACK on YOU to PROVE that YOU can't CONTROL YOURSELF.
Got it?
She's TESTING YOUR SELF-CONTROL right now... I know she has none of her own, but she's going to be testing yours... she's going to BAIT you itno a fight... She's stressed out and YOU are the nearest Punching bag.
I suspect she was doing this to OM as well, which may be why he took off.. If he did really leave.
Your wife picks on people when she gets stressed out.. she attacks them verbally.. Its' quite commnon reaction to stress...
Stay away from Dr Phil. Watch FUN LIGHTHEARTED FAMILY COMEDY... do NOT force relationship talk on her and watching Dr Phil is gonna drive her to that place and YOU TWO are gonna FIGHT.
She needs time to PROCESS her situation.
PS : Cook your own damn meals... don't let her do ANYTHING for you service-wise. SHOW her you are independent and don't NEED her. She's way too full of herself right now.. she's due for some humbling.
