Yes, and I'm in good shape as far as that goes. The problem is the minute we start anything legal, we pull out the drain plug on our savings, and it all starts flowing out to the lawyers. That's a safety cusion we desprately need in this economy right now, and I can't believe she's willing to throw her son's and our family security out the window.
Yup.. that's definitely an addiction... they drain resources like crazy... same happened in my home... its $$ you will never see again... gifts to teh OM, etc... what a waste that is...
On the good side you are in good standing and checked with a lawyer...
Are you gonig to push for primary custody of your son until she agrees to end her affair and see a family therapist with you?
That's what it is likley going to come down to.. unless you want to wait out the affair to see if it ends... and they usualyl do... You can add pressure with a separation agreement including child custody as well as continue to expose to friends how destructive she's being to her innocent son...
Worried that I may be out in the open here, so I shouldn't be too specific. How do we PM??? Suffice to say, parties contacted have been in touch with W and OM, and that's caused some reaction. W still non-denying denying. Judging from initial response, I'm hopeful that other parties were supportive in one way or another. Feel like I've unzipped my fly with exposure, but hopeful that it was the right play with the cards I was dealt. "All in" as it were.
Keep in contact with these parties you have exposed the affair to... don't just expose and hide away someplace.. if these are FRIENDS then keep in contact with them... You will have to get over your embarassment, it won't help your marriage or your son.
